Recently a friend has shared about the struggles he's been having in his marraige. His wife has cheated on him a few times and he's unsure if he should continue to forgive her or get divorced and move on and raise his child a happy parent whether single or in another healthy relationship. He is a christian and wants to remain biblically sound in his decision. That's a shitty situation. Because of all this he has started to drink, enough to escape the realities. Some of us would say that's the beginning stages of a problem if nothing changes. So I asked him if he's trying to remain biblically sound with his decision to start drinking. Or if he was biblically sound in getting married in the first place.
And his story is like many, young couples fall in love. Reset. Most young couples fall in lust and get married. And when things don't work out, all of the sudden you are concerned about what the bible says about divorce. Well, perhaps if you'd have consulted more with the bible in the first place.....I'm not saying that that's the end all be all. I just don't understand how someone can live 95% of your life one way thinking you know whats right and then when something goes wrong you care what the bible says. How did you ever know what you were doing was right to begin with? That all being said. See a therapist. See a counselor. Find an elderly couple, a middle aged couple and young couple and have them be open and honest with you about relationships. Find an elderly single person that may have never been married, a middle aged person and a young person as well in that category and do that same thing. And if by all means, if you'd be happier without someone, especially if they treat you like shit. Move along. And move along fast. I'm sure God would much rather have you do that the be stuck in a horrible relationship that you probably should have never been in in the first place.
Second. I looked up the definition of love in the dictionary. It didn't say to be in a relationship with someone long enough so they know you care and then speak truth into them and tell them they are wrong and you are right. And they need to change. And to tie the above in, How's that working out with your marraige?
Third, pets go to heaven. Pets just die. It doesn't matter what you believe. It doesn't change anything. Because I'm guessing when you get to heaven you won't care.
And lastly, probably the most important if you've made it this far. I had a short conversation with another friend. They said it's hard to think about friends who are great people, loving to others, fantastic humanitarians and really care about you going to hell because they don't know Jesus. Do you know why that's hard to think about? Because God put that emotion inside of you. And lets just say you are the one that has to look your friend in the eye and be the one that damns them to hell. Like, you said the word and off they went. You couldn't do it. You know why you can't? God gave you that emotion too. The shittiest person in the world that gossips, is a poor steward, mean to others and hates animals but believes in Jesus goes to heaven and the other person who is an outstanding person goes to hell? I don't buy it. If you can't imagine that, my guess is that neither can God. It says in scripture that Love covers a multitude of sins. So why do we so many christians have to be so focused on what the bible says and it being absolute truth? Is God not bigger then the bible? Is He not bigger then our mistakes effecting others? I may be wrong about this stuff and it may even steer people the wrong way. But I believe God is bigger than me and that he'll make sure those others are taken care of for my mistakes. And I also believe that he'll know I erred on the side of Love. And Love covers a multitude of sins.
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