More Inspirational BS

Two things this morning.  I watched Captain Fantastic last night.  It is such a great movie with so many things to unpack.  I'm not going to do that here.  I may never do it.  But seriously, go watch that movie.  It's, well....fantastic.

The second thing.  And it's going to be a short one today.  It's another blog talking about stupid shit people say without thinking about it.  And this one was even a moving meme.  It had words and in the background little kids were playing.  Let me say that the person that posted it whom I know has wonderful kids.   I don't think they really gave this meme much thought.  This isn't the exact meme...but you get the drift.  And I also know the original poster doesn't fit the description of what I am about to write.  At least I hope not.

First off....that's not what happiness is.  Can it make you happy that your kids are good people? Sure.  But your happiness should never, ever, depend on your kids being "good" people.  You love your kids no matter what, whatever they do.  You can be sad for them if they aren't, but you NEVER should let them or their actions dictate your overall level of happiness.  Kids should never feel like they have to do or say certain things just to keep mom or dad happy.  

Bottom line, your kids being "good" should have no effect on your overall level of happiness.  You go be happy, whether or not your kids suck at life or not.  I'm sure somebody with a child psychology degree could say it better than me.

Take this song for example.  I love this song.  But dang I've grown to hate the lyrics.  It's be Coheed and Cambria, Atlas.

So sleep tight, little Atlas

'Cause when your daddy goes off just you know

That you're the weight of his anchor,

The love that is guiding him home

That should not be the child's responsibility.  That's a lot of pressure for a child.  

Have a nice day.  Love your kids.  Be the best parent you can be.  But own yourself.  Own your feelings.  Don't make them dependent on someone else.